I wanted to meet more people. I noticed that my very busy and focused life had become unlikely to bring me into the orbit of the kind of women in whom I am interested.? I thought that taken in the spirit of fun and adventure it would be a good experiment.? As a personal preference, I think that Asian women are the most feminine and beautiful, so I decided to join Destina.

I saw an ad for Destina several years ago in the in-flight magazine on an Air France flight to Paris. I thought it unlikely that being introduced to strangers would produce romantic sparks but, again, I did it as an experiment and an adventure.　I thought it was great.? Destina’s advertising is very good.? Also, it was my impression that in Japanese culture there is a tradition of match-making which is very formal and dignified.? I had tried computer personals and never met a single person with whom I had a rapport.

I met women in the course of my work (very few); and also from introductions from friends who think I am a great bachelor (more); and simply by introducing myself and just trying to meet a woman if I think she is attractive.? This last works very well if you are courteous, honest, and have a sense of humor.? People do want to meet people, after all.

The main difference is that I chose women based on the famous "chemistry" everyone talks about, and then generally the relationship became a discovery of how the appeal of their appearance and demeanor was not equaled in their personality, character, or personal situation.? In other words, they were more desirable before you knew them.? With Destina a certain getting-to-know-you process simply has to occur at the beginning and, of course, people's profiles are compared so that there is some likelihood of compatibility.

The complimentary consultation was just right and a lot of fun.? Destina’s staff is a genius; helpful and insightful.

The would-be lover is like a bullfighter on Sunday morning.? It is always terrifying to offer yourself and to look for the same from another, and it requires courage, discipline, and goodwill. The first meeting with Kana went well, but was a little curious since it was a hurried lunch meeting before I went to work.? We only had an hour, and tended to talk about the lighter issues from our profiles such as personal interests, and about how she was enjoying her visit in California.

I try to consider very seriously the partner' heart.? This is like navigating a long journey through a fog and perhaps, at times, a storm.? You are, after all, navigating while you learn about that heart and, if you lose your way, you will never arrive.? Also, I just do everything she wants to do and try to be strong.

Kana preserves her attractiveness without undue inconsistency and game-playing and, unlike my previous affairs I have not found her less attractive as I know her more.? I think this is most promising.

ove is the great goal and gamble of life.? You may not find what you seek, but you must still love.? Therefore be gallant and gracious and keep your sense of humor.